Monthly Archives: March 2012

Membership Madness

Let me begin by saying I love the concept of community–especially as it relates to communities of faith. The whole idea of coming together as a group of people to love and support one another, as well as learn how to deal with the challenges of life and make a positive difference in the world is very attractive to me. This idea is a big part of the reason I do what I do. I have no interest in converting people to Christianity–or to any other faith for that matter. My overall goal as a pastor is to give people healthy options for developing a robust spirituality that enables them to grow inwardly, to effectively deal with the challenges of life and to be of positive service in the world. For me, church is not a place where we come to escape from reality; it is a place where we come for not only comfort and healing, but also to learn how to live in that reality called “our lives.”

So community is great! Church membership, on the other hand, is a whole other issue…

The organized, administrative part of me completely understands the need for identifying committed people who are willing to serve as business decision makers (Board of Directors, for example), and to serve as liaisons to the larger denominational body (in MCC we call these folks “Lay Delegates”). We also need to be able to identify strong financial supporters who are willing to invest not only their time and skills, but also their financial gifts in the vision and mission of our communities of faith.  I see such identification and affiliation as the primary goal of what I call “voting membership.” These are the folks who are “all in.” That said, in no way do I mean to disregard the valuable contributions of faithful friends of the church (who often fulfill membership standards better than some voting members, by the way); still, the voting members are the ones who have officially “signed on the dotted line,” so to speak.

In our church, the primary benefits of  voting membership are the ability to serve in one of those capacities mentioned above and to have voice and vote in congregational business meetings. That’s right; you don’t have to be a voting member to serve on ministry teams, teach, serve in worship–even consecrate and serve communion! You don’t have to be a voting member to receive pastoral care calls, home and hospital visits, baptism, funeral services, marriage services, and so on, either.

At the same time, if you do decide to “officially” join our community of faith, there are expectations. We like to see your smiling face in worship, participating in some ministry of the church and financially supporting the church at least once every six months. Of course, I would love to see everyone’s smiling faces a lot more than once every six months; still, life happens. And let’s face it, not even the pastor should be in church for every single service and event! Everyone needs to take some time away–including the pastor–and I do.

I also understand when people say their spiritual needs aren’t being met by the community; or if the programming isn’t a good fit; or if the pastor’s sermons just don’t do it for them; or just fill in the blank with your particular need. As much as I would love to be able to meet all the needs out there, no one person or community can meet all the various needs present in today’s world. Needs change over time, too; so we shouldn’t be too surprised or hurt when people leave our communities as their spiritual paths change. That’s part of the reason we have so many communities of faith. And I think its great we have the ability to choose the spiritual communities that challenge and nourish us the most.

Unfortunately, I think its possible the way we’ve structured church membership in most communities is part of the hangover which remains from the marriage of the church to the Roman Empire. That is, in some communities of faith membership is largely a patron system. Those with the most influence and money are sometimes treated differently than those with less influence and money. And woe be to the pastor/board/membership committee who seeks to equitably apply the rules of membership covenant! Been there, done that–and a couple of times it was seriously ugly.

To me its pretty simple. We made a covenant. Now one of us can no longer honor it for whatever reasons. Can we work it out? If so, great! If not, let’s grieve the loss, wish one another the best in life and go our separate ways. Seriously, its OK to do this. In fact, it might be the healthiest option for everyone. Its just that it never gets easier for me to be the one to initiate these difficult discussions.

So, does anyone have suggestions for how we can reform the concept of church membership in the 21st century–ways that honor the legitimate need for some structure and order, gives voice to others who may feel marginalized by our current systems, and encourages a sense of healthy community participation and responsibility?

The floor is now open…

Blessings on your journeys!

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Hamsterism

About two and a half years ago, I began taking indoor cycling classes at our local Y. After my first few classes I wasn’t sure I would continue. The days of standing for long periods of time out of the saddle and charging up hills on a bicycle–whether a simulated or real experience–seemed long gone after those first few tenuous classes. And don’t get me started on the effects of long seated climbs on my backside!

Once I registered for the 2010 Chicago Ride for AIDS, however, Spinning classes (the trademarked name for indoor cycling classes) became the foundation of my training program during the Chicago winter. I dutifully purchased padded cycling shorts and proper cycling shoes, faithfully attended classes three to four times a week, and by the time spring rolled around I was ready for outdoor training. I’m convinced, too, that without the investment of indoor training my first Chicago Ride for AIDS experience would not have been nearly as enjoyable as it was.

What I discovered over time was I actually prefer imitating a hamster wearing spandex spinning on a wheel over dodging people, cars, joggers, walkers and other cyclists on the streets and trails of Chicagoland. I can take indoor cycling classes year round, get an excellent workout in an hour or less, avoid potentially life threatening accidents and reduce my financial investment in the appropriate equipment necessary for safe outdoor cycling.

In fact, I enjoy indoor cycling so much that I am considering starting a new religion–“Hamsterism.” In Hamsterism you get to your final destination quicker and with killer legs and tight glutes to boot! And the only “hell” in Hamsterism is the embarrassment of wearing padded spandex cycling shorts.

Of course it probably sounds strange for someone whose blog contains the words “Losing My Religion” to actually considering starting another one. And I’ve already thought of a few very valid concerns with Hamsterism. First, it sounds a lot like other organized religions at times; that is, you’re on a wheel going nowhere fast. Second, you’re in a very controlled environment. Third, most people wouldn’t practice Hamsterism outside of its immediate environment. Yep, sounds like some forms of organized religion to me!

Before walking away, however, let’s look at Hamsterism from another perspective. First, as anyone who takes indoor cycling seriously will tell you, it requires commitment. You have to commit to getting on the bike more than every now and then if you really want to see changes. So while it may seem like you’re spinning your wheels sometimes, healthy commitment brings changes–slow and almost imperceptible sometimes–but changes nonetheless.

Indoor cycling is less controlled than you might think, too. Yes, there are a few basics you have to know; still, how you practice those basics and build upon them is largely up to you. Effective instructors give riding options because they know people are all over the map skill and experience wise. In other words, there is more than one way to travel your path and reach your destination. Hamsterism would follow these same precepts. Challenge yourself, yes; still don’t allow yourself to get overwhelmed. Learn to step back and breathe when you need to do so.

Indoor cycling is available in a variety of places at a variety of times led by different people with different ideas who are leading tiny to huge groups. Although there are certification programs for instructors, there is no one “orthodox” indoor cycling body that tells everyone when and where they can meet, what music to play, what program to follow, and how and how often they must practice to be “real” indoor cyclists. Hamsterism would train its leaders, then set them free to develop their own communities and to establish relationships with other communities–both Hamsterarian and non-Hamsterarian–all while providing updated, relevant continuing education opportunities. The other side of this coin I will call “radical freedom” is, with such freedom from the “Home Wheel” (denominational/regional/district governing bodies) also comes the great responsibility to form healthy interdependent communities of faith without the expectation of rescue from those bodies if we “break our own wheels.”

Finally, the primary teaching of Hamsterism would be to learn methods of healthy interaction and cooperation with all those “outdoor cyclists” to make the world a saner place. We would invite them to enjoy and participate in our indoor communities without requiring them to covert to Hamsterism–and we would join them in their healthy, life-giving outdoor activities as well.

Now that I think of it, we probably don’t need Hamsterism. All the world’s major religions have some great indoor classes already. Perhaps all we need to do is consider taking some time “off the wheel” and begin sharing those amazing indoor skills and knowledge with the great outdoors–and in the process learn a few new skills ourselves.

Besides, I don’t think a rodent on a spinning wheel makes for a very inspiring symbol of faith. Do you?

Blessings on your journeys!